No matter how supportive your network is, there is most likely a time in your life when you will have to go at it alone. You have to be your biggest and maybe only supporter, for some seconds, minutes, weeks, months, and maybe even years of your life. If you are in your thirties or younger, you may likely have a parent who doesn’t understand that you can make a living in some really unconventional ways (i.e. blogger, Youtuber, life coach, etc.). Many 80s and 90s babies even have dreams of ownership. Owning their own business and reporting to themselves. That’s me. I have always had this dream, not only because I don’t like the monotony of working for others but because I know I am capable of running a business. With that being said, I don’t always feel support from the older generation and even some of my peers, that my business can work. (I own a small consignment store on a tiny island).
In conversations with people I look for support there is always a hint of doubt that I’m grasping at straws. Whether its suggestions to apply for this job or that or a change of subject when trying to explain the concept of my business. I have no problem with side hustles. I actually believe that they are a very smart idea, especially when you are just starting out. It’s just that I get weary of those conversations where my accomplishment, no matter how new, is pushed under the rug. No, you don’t have to do back flips for me, but support me and believe in me. It gets tiring sometimes and can definitely be discouraging. So, what I have decided to do is to be my biggest supporter. Whether I get “I’m proud of you” or not I still push forward. I am not deterred because believe you me, I have worked very hard and had a whole heap of obstacles throughout the years and finally, finally, something is giving. I don’t know about you, or anyone else, but I am happy about that and guess what, the community I have established my business in is largely supportive. Whatever you desire in life, use the right measure of wisdom (by weighing your options), and responsibly go after what you want. Don’t live in the shadows of your parents, aunties, uncles, grandparents, sisters, brothers, friends, etc. Maybe their vision is not as big as yours due to their lack of opportunities, pessimistic attitudes, lack of knowledge, etc. Be your biggest supporter. I am in your corner, are you?
Claytine Nisbett is a Caribbean based blogger, author, entrepreneur, and motivator. She was born on the island of Antigua but grew up in New York. She is now back in the Caribbean and has recently accomplished one of her life’s dream of becoming a published author.
Her YA novel, Life As Josephine, has received great reviews on Amazon’s US and UK market. It is a powerfully motivating story that chronicles the life of a Caribbean-American girl named Josephine, growing up in Bronx, NY. She is strong-willed and self-assured, but like most teenagers, she has an encounter that causes her to question herself, but she eventually prevails!
This is a great book for not only young adult girls but for women everywhere who have faced opposition that causes us to question who we are and what we stand for! It’s for us who are ready to show the world we are overcomers.